FAQ

Getting started & the basics

What exactly happens in the free 20 minute discovery call?

This is an informal, no-pressure chat to see if we are a good fit. You can share a little bit about what is bringing you to therapy, and I will explain how I might be able to help. It’s also your time to ask me any questions about my approach. If we both feel it’s a match, we can talk about scheduling our first full session.

How do I know if my problems are "bad enough" for therapy?

There is no such thing as "not bad enough." If you are feeling stuck, overwhelmed, burned out, or disconnected, your experience is valid. You do not need to be in an active crisis to benefit from counselling. Therapy is a space to proactively build the life you want, no matter where you are starting from.

What happens in our very first session together?

Our first session is all about building trust and getting the "lay of the land." We will explore your history, your current challenges, and your goals for therapy. Most importantly, we will establish a safe, comfortable pace. You are always in control of what you share.

How long are the sessions, and how often should we meet?

Standard counselling sessions are 50 minutes long. Typically, I recommend meeting weekly or fortnightly at the beginning to build strong momentum. As you start to see changes and feel more grounded, we can space sessions out further.

How many sessions will I need in total?

Because therapy with me is highly personalized, there is no set number. Some clients find that 6 to 12 sessions provide the tools they need to overcome a specific hurdle, while others prefer longer-term, ongoing support to dive deeper into their personal growth. We will regularly review our progress to ensure you are getting exactly what you need.

Understanding the therapies (The "How")

What therapeutic methods can I expect you to use?

The counselling sessions will be seamlessly woven together to perfectly suit your needs right now. The majority of our work is grounded in traditional, evidence-based psychotherapeutic modalities like Person-Centered Therapy, CBT, Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Gestalt, and Existential Therapy. See more detail on the COUNSELLING METHODS page .

What will we actually be doing in our sessions?

Our process and journey are highly collaborative. We will spend time discovering, uncovering and understanding the hidden patterns holding you back. Seeing the roots of these patterns without self-criticism we can then build confidence to take steps, to "try on" new ways of being in your real life. See more detail on the COUNSELLING METHODS page.

What does it mean to do "Parts Work" or Gestalt therapy?

Sometimes we feel stuck because we have conflicting inner voices—for example, a part of you that wants to rest and a "Perfectionist" part that demands you keep working. Parts Work helps us bring these conflicting sides to the table, listen to what they need, and resolve the inner conflict so you can move forward as a whole, united self.

What is the difference between Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT)?

CBT focuses on your thoughts; it helps us identify negative stories you tell yourself and actively rewire them. EFT focuses on your feelings; it helps us safely explore and process heavy emotions that you might be avoiding. Together, they ensure we aren't just "overthinking" your feelings or drowning in them, but actively using both logic and emotion to heal.

I’m a bit nervous about Hypnotherapy. Is it safe?

Hypnosis is completely safe and deeply relaxing. It is simply a state of focused attention (like being engrossed in a good book). You will remain entirely in control and cannot be made to do anything against your will. We use it to calm the nervous system and help the positive changes we discuss consciously take root in your subconscious.

Tell me about your esoteric tools (Tarot/Astrology/Soul Planning). Are they mandatory?

Not at all! You are in the driver's seat. We always start with traditional psychotherapeutic methods like CBT, Gestalt or Existential therapy. If you are drawn to the esoteric tools, or feel stuck and would like further prompting, they can be very useful and we can weave them into our work. The toolbox is entirely at your disposal.

Your safety & comfort

What does it mean that your practice is "trauma-informed"?

Being trauma-informed means I understand how past difficult experiences impact your present nervous system, behaviors, and beliefs. I do not assume "what is wrong with you," but rather ask "what happened to you." It also means I prioritize your safety, ensuring we never push you into recounting memories before you are entirely ready.

What if I feel like we are moving too fast in our sessions?

Your comfort is my top priority. My approach is proactive, but it is also highly sensitive to your needs. I will continually check in with you, and you have full permission to say, "Let's slow down," "I don't want to talk about that today," or "I need a break." You set the pace.

Do I have to talk about my childhood?

While our past shapes us, we don't have to dwell there if it isn't helpful. Our primary focus is on the present—getting you unstuck and moving forward. We will only look back if we need to understand the root of a current pattern that is holding you back today.

What if I’ve had a bad experience with therapy in the past?

It is incredibly brave to try again. Please let me know during our discovery call if you've had a negative experience. We can discuss what didn't work for you previously so I can ensure our space is fundamentally different, supportive, and aligned with your actual needs.

I feel completely overwhelmed and "discombobulated." Where do we even start?

We start right where you are. You do not need to have your thoughts perfectly organized before you arrive. In fact, bringing the messiness into the room is exactly what I am here for. We will untangle it together, one step at a time, starting with whatever feels heaviest that day.

Practical details & policies

Will you give me "homework" between sessions?

Because my approach is proactive, I often suggest small, manageable tasks or reflections to carry into your week—like noticing a specific thought pattern or trying a new boundary. However, this "homework" is always collaborative and entirely optional. It’s designed to create lasting momentum, not add stress to your plate.

Is my information completely confidential?

Absolutely. What you share in our sessions is strictly confidential. There are only very specific, rare legal and ethical exceptions to this (such as if you are at immediate risk of harming yourself or others), which I will clearly explain to you in our first session before we begin.

Do you offer sessions online, or just in person?

Either! You can choose to meet with me in my welcoming, private space in East Grinstead, or we can conduct our sessions securely online via video call from the comfort of your own home.

What are your fees, and do you take insurance?

My session fee is £60 per 50-minute session. I am happy to provide you with a receipt that you can submit to your provider for potential reimbursement.

I'm ready. How do I book my first session?

I am so glad you are ready to take this step! Simply click the "Book a Discovery Call" button anywhere on my website to schedule your free 20-minute consultation. Let's begin the work of coming home.

Taking the Next Step

Finding the right counsellor is about finding the right connection. It is important that you feel comfortable, understood, and confident in our ability to work together.

To help you decide if "Coming Home Counselling" is the right fit for your journey, I offer a free 20-minute introductory discovery call. This is an informal, no-pressure opportunity for us to chat, for you to ask any questions you might have, and for us to see how we might work together. We can do this either on Zoom/Google Meet or locally in East Grinstead.

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